Polyam Parenting Community Group

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Compassion & community at the intersection of polyamory + parenting

A free, virtual, twice monthly discussion & support group for people raising children in polyamorous/ENM relationships to build community, ask questions, and get support with the unique challenges of parenting and non-monogamy.

Navigating polyamory while raising children brings unique challenges that monogamous parents and child-free polyamorous folks don’t experience. This is a community that understands and supports the fullness of our experiences. We laugh, we cry, we share wisdom and compassion, we crack jokes about dating our google calendars, and we solve the real challenges and struggles our families face.

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Frequently Asked Questions

    • Open to anyone involved in a significant way in a child's life, whether or not they are a "parent" in biological or legal sense.

    • Open to polyfolk considering kids and parents considering polyamory.

    • Open to polyfolk dating parents and considering what involvement they want in a child’s life.

  • You're welcome to show up late, leave early, and parent/make dinner/whatever during the call. we get it, we're juggling a lot too!

  • You don't have to have energy or be in a headspace to support others right now- that's the point of community, among us all, there will be enough for everyone.

  • You can have kids of any ages. We think building community before you actually have kids is important, and we think staying in community and sharing your wisdom when you're no longer day-to-day parenting is valuable too.

  • We're all about intersectionality. Both the intersection of polyamory + parenting, but also all the other marginalized identities that polyfolk often have- race, gender, sexual orientation, neurodiversity, etc. Your identities will never be pathologized here.

    • I have a background as a breastfeeding peer counselor and conscious parenting coach and believe that just as consent is paramount in our adult relationships, it is with children as well. However, I'm not here to prescribe- I believe that with good support people find their way to what is best for them and their families.

    • We've seen a wide variety of family structures and we're not promoting any one way of structuring how adults support children's care and growth. If all the adults and children involved are thriving, then it's a good structure.

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Group Norms

  • We hold space for each other without judgement, offering unsolicited advice, interrupting, or trying to fix each other. At all times we respect and honor group members’ identities. If something someone shares touches something tender for you, please ask for additional support from a group leader.

  • Boundaries and consent are foundational to this group as in all relationships. Do not DM anyone other than a group leader without public permission. Only an explicit ‘yes’ is a yes. You do not have to answer any question or share any information that you are uncomfortable with.

  • Feel free to turn off video, move around, attend to children, etc to care for yourself. However, as much as you are able, being present and on video helps to foster the connection and community feeling of the group.

  • Anything shared in the group stays in the group. Ask permission before sharing anything shared with anyone else. If you see group members in public, please consider how you interact with them, as not all members may be “out” in all situations.

    All questions submitted to the group are read anonymously unless you choose to identify yourself and claim your question.

  • We all make mistakes and blunders, however, it is expected that all members will repair any harm caused (even unintentionally) and use the opportunity of accountability to grow. Any intentional harm IE bullying, will not be tolerated. We reserve the right to remove anyone if necessary.

  • This is a space for community building for polyamorous parents. It is not a space to promote yourself or look for dates.

  • We believe that consent is foundational to parent-child relationships just as it is in adult relationships. As such, responses to parenting questions should include sovereignty and respect for the child. We do not condone coercive, manipulative, or violent parenting techniques.

  • This group is open to adults practicing all forms of consensual non-monogamy, however our primary focus is on the deeper connections of polyamory. Answers to relationship questions should always include consideration of and compassion for the needs of all parties. We do not condone non-consensual non-monogamy (cheating).

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